why we shout in anger  

一個印度聖人在去恆河沐浴時,在河岸邊發現了一群家庭成員們正在生氣地互相大喊。

他轉身微笑地面對他的門徒們,並問為什麼人們會在生氣時對彼此大叫?

門徒們想了一會兒,其中一個人說因為我們失去平靜,我們會大叫

聖人問,但是,為什麼你要對一個就站在你旁邊的人大叫呢?你一樣能以柔軟的態度去告訴他那些你所要說的話

門徒們給了一些別的答案,但沒有一個門徒同意其他門徒的答案。

終於聖人說明了
當兩個人在對彼此生氣,他們的心會有很大的距離。為了涵蓋這個距離,他們必須去大叫才能聽的到對方。他們越生氣,他們就必須更強烈的大喊,才能包含這麼大的距離去聽到對方

當兩個人相愛時會發生什麼事?他們不用對彼此大喊,而是輕柔的說話,因為他們的心是非常靠近的,在他們之間的距離不是不存在就是非常地小。

聖人持續說,當他們愛彼此更多的時候,那會發生什麼?他們不說話了,只是耳語,在他們的愛中他們更靠近彼此了。最後,他們甚至不用低語了,他們只要看著彼此,就這樣。這就是如此的靠近,當人們愛著彼此時。

他看著他的門徒們說,所以當你們爭執時,不要讓你們的心產生距離,不要說那些會使彼此拉開距離的話,否則那會有一天,當這距離是如此之大,那麼你們將找不到路回復。
(感謝Olah翻譯)

A Hindu saint, who was visiting river Ganges to take bath, found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled and asked. "Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?"

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, "Because we lose our calm, we shout."

"But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner," asked the saint.

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.

Finally the saint explained... "When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance. What happens when two people fall in love? They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small…"

The saint continued, "When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all. That is how close two people are when they love each other."

He looked at his disciples and said. "So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return."

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